Behind every successful man or woman

is a mountain of resentment. It's a most inconvenient truth, success attracts resentment. I don't mean the gritted-teeth resentment of your old high school buddy who is still making minimum wage when your home computer company goes public allowing you to retire to a private Caribbean island at 23. It's not the people who resent your success that's the problem here, rather, it's the other way around. Let me explain. The higher up the success ladder you climb, the more incentive for people to rip you off. Simply put, the friends you make in poverty are more likely to be motivated by only friendship. It's not that rich people can't have friends too, it's just that there is an incentive for less than scrupulous people to wax your car. This doesn't mean you can't have a resentment free life. It's just that success, in-of-itself won't do it. Success is a good thing. But success without resentment is an even better thing. So how do you rid yourself of resentment? Judaism has been around for 3,500 years and achieved success over success. Therefore, we've had to deal with a lot of people who offered to wax our cars and ended up taking the radio. To express it mildly. Some people think they can squelch a good resentment by settling the score. But anyone who has tried that path can attest, it doesn't keep the total number of resentments at bay. Like zombies in a "B" movie - one goes down and three pop up. No matter who you are or what you can do to others, there is always someone else who has more clout or is stealthier. Therefore, the resentment free path does not start with payback or revenge. Then how?  

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How birds see it

When my son was 8 years old he came to me and said, "I just realized something!" His enthusiastic tone indicated an insight worthy of Newton. "Water isn't fun unless you are in it." And even though the National Academy of Sciences isn't going to publish that one, he's right. There's an old saying, when you are a hammer, everything is a nail. My son thinks the purpose of life is to have fun. Everything therefore, is only here for him to have fun. I don't want you to think, that I think, my son discovered something on par with a new planet or a cure for aging. But what he did, we should all do, when things don't make you smile, don't give up. In his mind, the only reason for rain is for fun. When he didn't have fun with it, he had to find out why. Thus his "brilliant" insight - you have to be in it. Why don't we think like that?

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99% of what you worry about…

...doesn’t ever happen, and what does happen is not on the list! In error, you might conclude, “I have the wrong list.” Despite the fact we complain about it, it’s for this reason we follow the news and current tragedies – we want to compile the "right" worry list. I hate to break it to you, but 99% of what EVERYONE worries about doesn’t happen. Whatever list you or anyone else has, G-d is using a different one. Even the President of the United States who has a small army of staffers just dedicated to figuring out what to worry about didn’t list the Twin Towers coming down. If the President couldn’t figure out what to worry about, then what chance do you and I have? In short, we not only have a list of worries, but we also worry about whether we have the right list! Interestingly, and as odd as it might sound, happiness is worrying about the right things in life (Proverbs 28:14). What is the right worry?

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Do you suffer from P.B.M ?

  I don't want to sound alarmist here and start a national pandemic, but if you have seen the movie Contagion, then you know we are talking about a major motion picture scary experience. It all started, when Erik Lindenauer noticed odd things happening. Now, according to many leading experts, 24 out of every two dozen parents suffer some kind of P.B.M or related illness. Yet despite it's widespread and growing infection rate, there is no medical protocol for its prevention or cure.  Therefore, it's up to each one of us to do everything we can to save ourselves from Parent Brain Mush. Click here to see the first signs of infection and learn for yourself the 3 simple things you can do to keep your mind safe....

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